Naomi Dawn Musch

     It’s only three days ‘til Valentine's Day, so let's have some fun. I bet some of you have some saweeet surprises up your romantic sleeves for your darlin’. And, on the other hand, some of you are drawing absolute blanks – or could care less.

     Sometimes the romantically-challenged need a little refresher.

     Chances are if you're not newly in love, you need it even more. So when’s the last time you wrote your honey a love note? Has it been more than a year? There is no excuse for such neglect. And if writing a letter just isn't your thing, that's all the more reason why you should give it a try. After all, this is the season of love and surprises, is it not? Write a love letter! Knock your sweetie's socks off!

     But first, make yourself a cup of cocoa. After all, everyone knows the power of chocolate, especially as an aphrodisiac. So steam yourself a mug, and be inspired. Brainstorm away!

     All set? Good. Now, here are 4 hints to help you tell of your ardor:

     Be charming. Point out all the wonderful things that endear you to your darling. The physical attributes are all right to mention, and you probably should. But don't get hung up on them. Your love wants to know what makes them special on the inside, as well as the out. There's a reason your sweetheart fell in love with you -- or is thinking of falling in love with you -- because they see some charm in you. Is it because you're funny? Serious? Silly? Easy-going? Creative? Sensitive? Outgoing? Whatever or whoever you are, be real and be yourself -- the self that oozes charm.

     Be reminiscent. Call to mind a memory of something your heart-throb said or did that really touched you deeply, maybe a time you spent together, and how you enjoyed it. Reflect on a story, or your story. Remember that time when we...? Or -- I remember the look in your eyes the first time I asked you out. It was like... Sweet, silly, precious memories are... well... romantic!

     Be Candid. Expose the deep love in your heart. Your dearest can't read your mind. You have to tell them what's on it, and on your heart. Bring up the best thoughts. Expose your feelings. Don't just say, "I love you." Say, "You make my head spin and my heart pound. I'm dizzy with love for you!" This is not the time to hold back. Shower words of love on your beloved.

     Be evocative. Talk about what you'd like to do together in the future, whether it's tomorrow or next year, or 20 years from now. Stir up surprises, suggestions, something to remind your sweetheart why they're excited to be with you. Nothing kills passion faster than boredom. So don't be boring! Spice up that love letter.

     Happy Valentine's Day, with friendly affection,

     Naomi